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Sunday, July 22, 2012

Blessings & Babies

My cousin, Athirah Damia.
Every child is born as a blessing to the family; too many child means too many blessings in the family. Too many blessings sometimes is not healthy to the family, because too many child means too many mouth that the parents need to feed. 
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Before starting up a family, make sure that you are stable financially and emotionally because marriage life is not easy. Few of my friends get married at a very young age; a TESL classmate is blessed with a TESL baby at 21 years old, and another classmate will be tying the knot insyallah. The choices that they have made has affected their future in a good and bad way but I know that they are able to go through it.
Imran, Amir Arsyad and Alia.
Well, not everybody is blessed with a child especially when the women cannot get pregnant, so please take that duty very responsibly. Please be careful parents; do not over-protect your children and include them in decision making as well. Over-protected kids tend to grow up as spoil brats that they cannot make decisions on their own. However when some kids are left too freely with their world they will end up having no boundary in life too so my advice is for parents to be modest in parenting their children. 



To Muhammad Amir Arsyad, please be good to your parents and if your parents are angry with you just call me; I am your TESL Uncle and I will surely back you up hahaha (spoiling the baby). 

P/S: Some people do not deserve to be the parents the same as some children do not deserve to be their children right? Now in less than 100 words please tell me what is your opinion about early marriages among teenagers?

31 comments:

Nick Nashram said...

to be perfectly honest,i dont think get married at the age of teenagers is such a good ideas..there are numerous problems a couple will face when marriage happens at an early age for them..well, financial issue and maturity level always become a barrier for them to play their roles as a parents.

Sizzling Suzai said...

hhaha 100 words?! yup it can b that length bcoz early marriage hd lot of opinions n as u said some good n some bad. totally based on individual kn as FOR ME im 60% disagree to this idea when the teen r still study n using the parents's money.huhu but ppl always said 'klu da jodoh nk wat camne' is it?! again FOR ME as long as xmnyusahkan sesape n they know hw to well-handled it, it should b no prob at all kn. hmm..coming from divorced-family(ive nvr told u rite? ><) SERIOUSLY MARRIAGE ISNT AN EASY GAME! :( just sharing my thoughts..PEACE!

Elle Who? said...

for me, it depends on the person's maturity level. a marriage wont work if the individuals in it cannot play their parts very well. this includes the other major factors and agree wit u- decision-making is one of the crucial factors that may effect the ups and downs of a legal matrimony. so for those who decide to take this huge responsibility earlier than others, i must say they are so prepared to accept challenges- committing their entire life to each other as a blessed man and wife.

CekbOlat-bOlat said...

wahhhh.. en azham btul2 bile lgi ?

apple damein said...

kak diah sis going to get married soon azham?? like seriously?! alhamdulillah~ byknya kta punya tesl niece and nephew nanti...hew hew hew anyway, athirah damia tu sdapla nama tu..sesuai dgn baby tu..ish3 bestnya baby..azham bila plak? mcm mana dgn jnr tu?? good progress ke?

Orked said...

early marriage? Agreed to death...hahahaha....

Best kawen awal...*bukan gatai...we learn to support each other, having a good life and treasure the difficlties that come one by one..x kira laa kawen awal or lmbt, masalah ttp akan dtg...

yg penting, bersediakan kita? kalau kawen dpt mengelakkan maksiat dan dosa, kawen laa..tp kalau x tahu ape itu tanggungjwb lps kawen, dosa jgk...so one word...preparaion...

p/s: azham, cpt kawen...nk ank sedara baru...huahahah

Orked said...

early marriage? Agreed to death...hahahaha....

Best kawen awal...*bukan gatai...we learn to support each other, having a good life and treasure the difficlties that come one by one..x kira laa kawen awal or lmbt, masalah ttp akan dtg...

yg penting, bersediakan kita? kalau kawen dpt mengelakkan maksiat dan dosa, kawen laa..tp kalau x tahu ape itu tanggungjwb lps kawen, dosa jgk...so one word...preparaion...

p/s: azham, cpt kawen...nk ank sedara baru...huahahah

Rizal Sadiman said...

it depends on your time, responsibility level and financial statiblity

Azham Vsvc said...

Nick: hehe...that's a perfectly honest answer hehehe...Well I can actually see how these circumstances come to play in some people's life, so I too believe that early marriages is not easy. Thumbs up to those committed to it hehe

Suzai: hehe...yeap 100 words haha...Yeap, maybe it is because of "jodoh" that they get married at such an early age, but they pull through and that is quite a miracle for me hehe.... Oh i see, some people from a broken family actually is happier than those suffered from a fake relationship, trust me hehe....

Azham Vsvc said...

Elle: hehehe....I see. I really love you comment here because it show a very mature argument hehe, plus with a string of words used really explain your notion ver well hehe. Early marriages is not easy but to those who overcome the challenges, they deserve to get married early hehe

Apple: huhuhu....Insyallah one day if I have found the right woman to marry then you will receive the invitation soon hehehe. Athirah Damia is the latest cousin in my collection hehe...but I am not really good at handling kids hehehehe. Bout that juniors, yes I gave up hahaha.

Azham Vsvc said...

Orked: haha you are the kind of a person who will get married early hehe, but I am not sure whether you have had the candidate yet or now. Haha, good luck yeah hunting for love, it is not easy!

I am not ready yet to get married, my target is before 30 years old. If I exceeded that then I will not get married hehehehe

Rizal: Totally agree with you hehehehe....

the malay male said...

kalau dah jodoh, terima sahaja walaupun dalam peringkat umur yang masih muda. dapat membina keluarga dalam usia yang awal dan mengelakkan diri drpd terjebak dgn dosa.

bersedia atau tidak. tanggungjawab itu perlu dipikul juga. dah gatal sgt nak kawen awal... huhuhu

- zuriey - said...

bagus juga kahwin muda tu boleh elak dari masiat. Tapi kena bersedia fizikal dan mental

Hanie Dew said...

kalau bagi golongan remaja yang masih study,kalau masih berdua bagi aku ok la.since hubungan percintaan di kalngan remaja ni tgh hot.mungkin utk mengelakkan maksiat digalakkan.
Then,kalau ada ahli ketiga,kene fikir mcm mana nak sediakan sumber kewangan.(exeptional utk anak org berada)nak menhidupkan seorang lagi manusia bukan mudah.kene sedia mental dan fizikal.mana nak jaga baby,tesis,assignment,dan segala galanya lah.

so tolak ansur dan lebih kurang antara pasangan pun penting.

lebih dah 100 ni azham.habis la aku kene marah ni.

ஜ miss klanika ஜ said...

if you are well prepared enuff to give full commitment into your relationship,then go on .

Amir is so cute :)

Azham Vsvc said...

Malay Male: hehe....setuju dgn pendapat bro. Tanggung jawab tu memang perlu dipikul sebab dah kawen awal hehe...nak tak nak memang wajib hehehehe.....

Zuriey: hehe....tapi masih ada yang kurang bersedia dr segi kewangan, emosi...ada yang kena paksa kahwin, kesian kan?

Azham Vsvc said...

Hanie: hehe....ramai orang yang tak explore dunia lagi, mereka hanya nampak apa yang ada di hadapan mereka. Ramai juga yang kecundang sebab kahwin awal, tp ramai lagi yang kekal bahagia sebab sudah matang hehehe.....

Klanika: hehe Amir Arsyad is so cute hahaha....well, most people are ready but sometimes their parents do not let them marry the person they love huhu....

ღKekunangpelangiღ said...

alahai.. comelnya baby tu. Sama macam parents dia. Baby azham, bila pulak? teett.. kbai. haha

eva said...

hmmm. bukan senang bila dh kahwin trus hidup mcm org bercinta sblm kahwin.. bila dah di alam kahwin tanggungjwb masing2 lagi berat.... of course bila dh kawen mesti nak anak.. so awal2 dh kene sedia.. tp xtau lah maksud dah sedia tu mcm mana.. sbb kdg2 bila dah ada anak mcm berlaku mcm2 masalah kewangan belum lagi bila anak dah membesar.. xper suma parents boleh didik anak2 sendiri.. hmmm..

what comes around goes around tu jer sy leh ckp.. hehe

ckp mmg senang, tp bila kta alami sendiri tergigit pulak kan.. huhu. besar betul tanggungjwb..

Azham Vsvc said...

eva: hehe...betul tu...bila da kawen mesti nak anak kan...jarang sangat yang betul2 merancang keluarga huhuhuhu....Susah kan bila ada anak semasa masih belajar, mana nak beli susu, lampin, pakaian, susah tu huhu.

Cinta Misteri said...

I'm maried when i 22 (forced to maried) pilihan family. But i don thk its bad 4me. Now we've been 2gader 10yrs and we happy being 2gader with 2 smart boys. Allah kurniakn only 2 kids stakt ni. 4me ada rmai ank w/o good income sgt tdk bgus utk prkembangan ank2. Lagilh skang ni edu sgt xpensive + medical charge. Kawin muda ok, tp kena ukur baju d bdn sndiri...

Azham Vsvc said...

Cinta Misteri: Wah...kahwin atas pilihan keluarga, menarik tu! Alhamdulillah 10 great years and counting right? hehe...hehe kalau betul2 bersedia nak kahwin, ada sumber kewangan bolehlah diteruskan huhuhuhu

Suhami Ahmad said...

what the cute baby :)

Azham Vsvc said...

Atok: comel kan? So Atok apo tunggu laie?

Aziela said...

Suhami n Azham, Atok n cucu, sama jer.. Opss, daku pun cucu juga yer.. Oh no.

Anyway, early marriage actually depends on many aspects. The most important aspect is, both candidates should have a good in-depth understanding and knowledge in syariah. Islam has outlined a great manual for us to develop the nations. It covers economy, sociology, responsibilities, the do's and the don'ts together with love, emotion, sacrifices and sincerity. No matter at what age you are, if you can't learn about syariah and munakahat, you will be drifted away sooner or later. Trust me! Owh, please find a proper teacher for you to learn.

Azham Vsvc said...

Aziela: hehe...apo yang samo tu akak? Pasal tak kahwin-kahwin laie ko? hahahaha......

Hehe, I totally support your points here because most early marriage is made up of merely love and not by their understanding of syariah etc. Some thought that it is the best way to curb "maksiat" but they do not really know the meaning of marriage, and I think it is not right, right?

NARUMI ISOZAKI said...

i think parent amir arsyad tu x over-protective, tp uncles and aunties dy yg akan triple-over-protective him, hahaha~

early marriage?
tengok orang sibuk bertunang, nak kahwin, mesti rasa nak jugak. nak kahwin awal. nak love after marriage. awww. haha~ dulu la. b4 i reached 21. haha~ and now i realized i'm not ready yet to get involved in this serious matter. and agreed to the max with the comments above. depends on ur maturity, financial, responsibilities, etc. well, it depends on how u define it~ :)

Azham Vsvc said...

Narumi: hehe....kita yg sebenarnya over happy kan? Imran dgn Alia rileks aje hahaha....

Yea, sekarang baru kami nampak kesukaran untuk berkahwin awal....amboi nak kena jadi imam dalam solat, sediakan makan minum, bg didikan agama, ugh susahnya! malas la nak kahwin hahahahahah!

NARUMI ISOZAKI said...

haha~ tahu takpe kan. hehe.

erm, yerp. betul2. tajwid diri sendiri pun failed, macam mana nak ajar anak2 ngaji kan.. takut.. huhu~ itu urusan Tuhan. DIA lebih mengetahui bila masa kite dah bersedia nanti. =)

Azham Vsvc said...

Narumi: hehe....cakap pasal tajwid ni kan, kami pun tak bersedia nak jadi imam dalam solat...so baik tak payah kahwin lain...buat tambah dosa nanti adalah huhuhuh....

Azham Vsvc said...

CekBolat: haha maaf sy belum bersedia hehehhe!

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